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Why does my family think that I'm a little kid?

I'm 17 and I'm a college student. I look like a regular teenaged girl. When I'm around my family I'm quiet, I don't act immature when I'm around them. My family and my dad's step-kids that are 21, 22, and 24 all think that I'm a little child. I totally understand the fact that I'm not a 30 year old woman with a career, kids, and a house mortgage and that I'm just a teenager. One time there was a Victoria's Secret catalog laying on the kitchen counter and my dad's wife's daughter saw it and flipped it over and told my dad that I shouldn't be seeing it because it will corrupt me. And actually I go to lingerie stores to go bra shopping... And another time, we were all watching this movie and a couple started making out and they were freaking out saying "oh my god! fast forward it! there are children around!" And there was another time where they were all talking about this girl who is the SAME age as me and how she cuts herself because she is depressed but they wouldn't tell me about it because they said that I was too young to hear about such things. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if they think that I have never been kissed and that I don't know where babies come from. It's funny how I actually had my first kiss at 13 to a 17 year old guy and how for the past 3 months, I have been sneaking out almost everyday to make out with a guy friend that I met. People that I befriend that aren't related to me have NO problem talking to me about sex and more adult things. I honestly feel like I'm living a double life. Why does my family think that I'm a little kid?

Public Comments

1. eat me
2. They don't want you to grow up. Or they want a lil kid running around the house again. Talk to them about it. Say your opinion on some topics that they are talking about.
3. seriosuly have you ever thought tht they might be jealius of you that your younger and probaly more out going then they are try thinking about those things you never know
4. Hi, They probably just dont want you to grow up! I would talk to them all at 1 time and tell them that you arent a baby anymore and you would like it very much if they would treat you your age. Hope this helps.
5. They don't really see you as a little kid, they just want to protect from everything in the world, but they can't. They are probably scared you'll end up promiscuous.
6. You are not a little kid but on the other hand you are not an adult yet. Your sneaking out to do things? That is something that a rebellious child does and why are you still having to do this behind your fathers back? I know your already at an age where your into boys and doing things with them. You should at least introduce your boyfriend to your father even if he disapproves. That will be one step closer to show your dad your not a little girl anymore and your ready to go out in the world and start your own life. Your step siblings will always make fun or tell your parents things about you until your 18 or sometimes even 21 because right now your still the youngest. Just take your time and instead of telling your dad/mom your grown, show them. Take care and enjoy your life.
7. It's hard for parents to come to terms that their "baby" is growing up. They want to protect you from certain things out there. Have a conversation with them tell them that you understand what is out there and you know the risks. It might seem to you that they wouldn't understand what you are going through but there is a lot more things for parents to worry about these days. I know this is gross, but have the "sex" conversation with your parents, let them know that you want to wait (if you are waiting), and that you feel uncomfortable when they try to shield you away from certain subjects. There are alot of teenagers that copy what they see on tv. I mean there are 12 yr olds having sex and getting pregnant. Kids are taking guns to school. I understand their protectiveness. Just talk to them and tell them you understand it too, but you will be an adult soon and would like to be treated like one. There is still the saying "Act like a child and you'll be treated like one" Good luck to you, but if it is bothering you this much talk to them. If it helps write down what you want to tell them first so you can get your thoughts together.