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My 4 year old son want a kitchen for christmas?

All my 4 year old son wants for christmas is a fisher price kitchen. My husband and parents are totally against the idea and think he should only have "boy"toys. My son found a blue one in a christmas catalog and has his heart set on it. I want to just call and order it but I dont want him to get made fun of by his cousins or upset my husband. what should I do?

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Order the toy. A kitchen is not a boy or girl toy, that is crazy.
Thats awesome! Get it for him. My two boys love theirs and the fake food. They make one - a huge little tykes $$$ one also, with a grill. Does your husband grill. If so, use that against him :)
Get it for him, there's nothing wrong with that! You're lucky he's not begging you for a Playstation 3 or a Wii.
Have your husband watch Hells Kitchen or anything with Gordan Ramsey, who is a former pro footballer. Most of the worlds most famous chefs have been men.
I'd get him one. As long as this is fairly isolated, and not part of an overall pattern of gender confusion, I'd say let him have fun with his kitchen. I bet he gets the idea from having been with you around the kitchen a lot. i think that's sweet, actually, kind of a tribute to you.
Get it for him. It's his decision, and if your husband has that issue...that's his problem. Young age is a time for exploration, and maybe exploring toys like that is appropriate.
Wow. Why do you only want him to have "boy" toys? And who says a kitchen is a "girl" toy?? Are you trying to socialize him to be Rambo or something? Give him the kitchen and let him play. Play with "girl" toys will not promote gender confusion
dont get it...he is a boy get him something that will make him forget about the kitchen. or have him cook with you thats even better.
Awww how cute, order him the damn kitchen already! He's 4 years old for god sakes! If your husband and parents get mad then o'well...who are the kids here?
Oh get your kid the kitchen. If everyone is really that worried about it, get him some "boy" stuff, too. But there's nothing wrong with him wanting a kitchen.
wtf is wrong with a kitchen i dont think he will become gay because of it. u should always consult wih ur husband but i think that it is gona make him an awsome cook. and girls think guys who cook are sexy. Go for it. dont make him disappointed. JUST DONT GET HIM A BARBY.
Sounds like your relatives are frightened that your son will grow up gay. I'd say buy it for him - he wants it, and there's no real reason for him not being allowed to have it. And who knows - he could grow up to be the next Gordon Ramsay... though maybe with a cleaner mouth. If it's something he wants, and he'll enjoy, then why not? Other than that, tell him no and tell your husband to explain why he can't have it.
Your son will one day grow up and a guy who knows his way around a kitchen is a very good catch! Toys such as this are not gender specific! I used to work in a kindergarten, and 99% of the boys loved to play in the kitchen center! I guess that 1% was the one kid whose father told him that kitchens are just for girls...................
Buy him the kitchen! This idea that boys can play with only boy toys is crazy. What do you think a little boy who plays with a kitchen would turn out to be? Gay, someone who's made fun of when he's older? No! He's 4, and a little boy who plays kitchen or with baby dolls, might grow up to be a terrific dad.
Many of the world's finest chefs are men. A kitchen isn't going to harm your son. It is a toy, something which bolsters his imagination. I homeschooled my children. They learned their math skills in the kitchen. They grew to be normal, well adjusted men! I'd go for it...
The majority of the greatest chefs in the world are men. Cooking is a very manly pursuit. To be honest, who cares what people think, this is what your son has his heart set on, and you know his face will light up when he sees it. When was a little girl I played with nothing but GI Joes, Remote Control cars and Hot-wheels. I turned out just fine. Kids will play with what they want, it is better to have a toy that interests him and sparks his imagination, than one that sits in the corner collecting dust
All my boys had kitchens..we have one in the playroom right now! My husband is also the one that does the cooking in our home. Boys like to cut, chop the playfood and slam the doors.....it is a NORMAL and healthy form of play. They also play with trucks, dinosaurs, robots, airplanes, trains..etc. To be truthful tho...the kitchen didn't hold their interest the way it did their friends who were girls. If the kitchen is expensive..opt for another toy...or buy a used one..or..make one. He may be just as happy banging around your kitchen with pots and pans and playing in the sink washing the dishes and making cup cakes. Your husband and his parents...are however..quite narrow minded it seems. If you had a girl would they have a problem with her playing with a truck?
Get him the kitchen. Who cares if they don't like it. It's not a boy toy. It's a great toy. It will help with him imagining and creative play. There's nothing wrong with that at all. My husband is a Chef and went to school and everything, so who knows, maybe your little guy would like to do that someday. Just cause a man is in the kitchen doesn't mean it's a girl thing at all. BUY THE KITCHEN!!!
So is it not ok for girls to play with cars or dig in the dirt? I suspect if your child were a girl no one would think twice if she asked for Hot Wheels cars for Christmas. If your family thinks that playing with a kitchen will make him gay or something, that's sad. Why aren't boys allowed to cook?? Have they ever heard of Emeril Lagasse?? I would get my son what he wanted for Christmas. There's nothing sadder than a kid not getting what they really wanted for Christmas.
And what is wrong with getting your son a play kitchen? Tell your husband and parents to back off he is just a child. If you want them to feel better about it then also by your son a toy Rifle so he can cook the pretend Deer, Elk, Bear, Pheasants and other wild game he hunts. It's not like you are buying him the Barbie kitchen or the Strawberry shortcake kitchen. Sounds like your 4 year old has more sophistication than your Parents and Husband. Get him the kitchen NO BIG DEAL.
maybe he's the next jaime oliver! get him the kitchen. one of my boys wanted ballet slippers because he loves playing ballerina.......and he darn well got them! who cares if he gets made fun of? do you? you should want him to love to play, regardless of what materials he uses! a little boy that plays house will probably end up being a great father and husband.
Get it for him....if that is what he wants and likes to play with it there is nothing wrong with that. Your husband probably thinks this will make him "gay" which is a ridiculous thought. If he doesn't get it he will be so disappointed at Christmas. My son used to play with his sisters toys all the time when he was little (yes, it did bother my husband), but I let him....why teach him there is something wrong with what he wants to play with?? By the way, my son did not turn out gay as a result (even if he did turn out gay I would love him just the same).
wow. such a '50s way of thinking. do he and his family also think a woman's place is barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen baking pie? a kitchen is NOT "gender specific". and playing with toys that ARE "gender specific" is not wrong either. when my hubby was a baby, his older sister dressed him up in her doll clothes, and when he was older they played dress up together. he is not gay. in fact, he is a very well adjusted 26 yr old man who loves his family. he's a wonderful dad...and he loves to cook! (i don't know if he had a pretend kitchen, but he learned to make his own eggs at 5yrs old. then, he washed his own dishes...*gasp*)
get it for him, it will make him creative by "cooking" stuff
Has your family never heard of a chef? Why not let your son have the kitchen set. I have one for visiting children and both sexes have a ball pretending while they interact. Pretending is such a lost are these days....you son will love presenting all sorts of "dishes" to the family....
Buy him one. There is no harm with buying him this toy. There are so many great world renowned chefs that are men. Maybe he likes to cook or create or maybe he just saw the commercial where it has more electronic sounds and colors. My son is 7 and he likes cars, trucks, computer games and sports but when he was little he liked the little vaccuum cleaner that made a sound with the lights whirring inside. You can't tell anything about a child by just there preference in toys. He just might like the electronic lights and sounds. If your family loves him they would do anything to just have your little boy happy and smile at christmas time because he got the one toy he wanted. Besides, next year he could want a hot wheels race track, you just never know with kids. Most of the toys they want they see on commercials on t.v. I hope this helps.
Ever watch Top Chef? Myhusband has always been the primary cook-----it's part of good parenting to teach your kids (nomater the sex) how to function and live in life...teaching him now to work in the kitchen, as well as in the yard and garage and laundry room is prepping him for long term success. In fact, when my kids wee little - I assigned each one of my 7 kids one "dinner night" assigned a month...they would plan the meal, go to the store and choose the ingredients and I would oversee them making it and serving it. (we have 7 kids) it taught them so many things! math-measuring and considering portions; flavors; dietary aspects; pleasing many others, also, the costs of food; and the enjoy,then they got out of the happy eaters responses was terrific! Tho' I claimed it was my (night off) break - there is work involved - but we spent quality time and what's better than that, aside from sharing a meal we all liked and they also respected me more--knowing the work involved in their once-expected meals. it can be as simple as soup and sandwiches, a salad with chicken or cheese; a prepared frozen meal they assemble or pancakes and sausage...whatever they chose! Made it fun and we all looked forward to it...they even liked inviting friends to "show off" to......this led to them all helping with major meals (assigning what each would help with) for those gatherings like the holidays and major events.
Your parents & husband are probably afraid this will turn him gay. There are plenty of straight guys who are excellent chefs. Your son just has an interest in cooking, that's all. Get him boy toys for Christmas to appease the relatives, then start spending time with him in the REAL kitchen, letting him learn how to do small things with real food, and preparing meals.
just by your kid the toy..theres nothing wrong with a kitchen. now if he wanted a barbie then thats probly diffrent... but yeah just by it and if your family gets mad tell them to DEAL WITH IT!
If I were you I would get him the kitchen, he is only four and the kitchen will spark his imagination and imagine all the fun he can have with any other children that come to play at your house! If my two grandsons wanted one I would get it for them and they and their two girl cousins could play all day with it. I think it is a wonderful idea. It is not like he is asking for a doll or anything like that. He just wants to play house. Did your husband not play house when he was young, if he says no then I think he is not telling the truth.
Funny I just asked the question if I should by my 4 year old son a doll lol. My son wanted a kitchen last year and I got him one. He would put things in the oven and tell me that he was making cookies. I don't see what the problem is in getting a boy a kitchen matter of fact when I bought the kitchen it had a picture of a boy playing with it on the box. I bet your son will love it and as long as he does it really doesn't what anyone says.
Buy him the kitchen!! My husband loves to cook!!
My son plays with my daughters pink and purple kitchen! I don't mind. I would order it. They have a lot of nice "boy" looking kitchens. I don't see anything girly about it. That makes me upset! I'm sorry. I would order it, and not worry about what husband and others say!
Does your husband not grill? Grilling is "man's work", some people think, so if you make sure the kitchen set has a grill ith it, everyone should be fine with it.
Way to promote gender sterotypes, dad! My husband made the same comment about me getting my son a kitchen...he said "Can't we get him a tool bench or something??" I just brought him over to our friend's house who has a kitchen and watched him witness our son's pure join in playing with her kitchen....now we're getting our SON a kitchen for Christmas. But it has a grill on one side (compromise). http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2308707 This one doesn't have any girly colors at all! http://www.target.com/Step-2-Custom-Kitchen/dp/B000KGAFTU/sr=1-1/qid=1194620028/ref=sr_1_1/601-3717208-7488967?ie=UTF8&index=target&field-browse=1038620&rh=k%3Akitchen&page=1
my daughter when she was a toddler loved hers, she is now 9 yrs old...now i have a 21 month old son and i am buying him the grow with me kitchen...My nephew is 3 and loves to play with his kitchen....go for it, it is for boys and girls...the best chefs are men!!!
Wow, sorry but that's pathetic. Does your husband not ever cook anything for himself or at least help make dinner? If not, I'd kick his sorry butt out or say either he helps or he starves. If the cousins tease him, tell them to knock it off or they don't play anymore. Your husband needs to drop the caveman attitude and realize that in this day and age, the average husband helps with raising children, cooking and cleaning. If not, he's going to find himself very hungry one day! Good for you for not going by gender stereotypes when your son says he wants a "girl" toy. It will help him grow up to be a strong, well - rounded man, and his future wife will be very grateful for it. Oh, and for those of you saying ignorant things like "at least he's not asking for a doll," do fathers not help raise their children? Yeah, that's what I thought. Nothing wrong with a boy playing Daddy to a baby doll, either. Maybe we wouldn't have so many deadbeat dads in the world if more played Daddy to baby dolls.
Oh order the toy. You're family is being sexist and ridiculous, think of all the famous chefs on tv, most of them are men and I don't know that any of them are gay or less "manly" bc of it. He's 4 years old, he doesn't know or care what the difference is in boy and girl toys, he just thinks it looks cool. I also think he would probably like the easy bake oven for BOYS, that makes like gummy worms and spiders and other disgusting boy things that they think are cool. My older brother who is now 26 had a baby doll when he was little and he turned out just fine, joined the army, is now married w/ 3 children. I don't see why people are so against little boys having a compasionate side. Get it for him and Good Luck
Get him the kitchen. Your husband and parents need to do some real self-evaluation. Why are they so paranoid about sex roles that they won't let the kid get an obviously gender-neutral toy? Even if this were a true girly toy, most people will say go ahead, but in this case you don't have to even address that -- it's neutral! And even if you want to adhere to the most rigid sex-role stereotyping, remember that almost all restaurant chefs are men, and restaurant kitchens are traditionally very much a male bastion. Does your husband have some identity/orientation issues of his own? That's the only explanation I can think of for worrying about something like this.
Oh my word, that is stupid. Not only is it stupid, it's unbelievably sexist. Why would a toy kitchen be a "girl toy," unless they believe cooking is "woman's work"? Let your little boy play what he wants to! Then remind your family that many of the most accomplished chefs in the world are men, not women. Most of them are heterosexual, even. If it were me, I'd buy the kitchen without telling my husband, put it out on Christmas Eve, and when you all get up and see it in the living room, shrug and tell your husband YOU didn't get it, SANTA did. Then, hopefully, your husband will see how happy your son is about his new kitchen and back off. BTW, I have two sons and two nephews. They would all think that present would ROCK! Plus, in my son's preschool/daycare, the most popular station, for both genders, is the kitchen station.
My son is a little younger, 2 1/2, but he is getting a kitchen set for Christmas. Boys like to play with that stuff too. When family members ask what to get him for Christmas, I tell him he's getting the kitchen set and can use some play food/utensils to go along with it. No one thinks it's "girly".
Get it! Remind your rather short sighted family members that ALL the GREAT chefs in the world are ALL MEN and they earn hundreds of thousands a year...think they would care if their sons wanted a toy kitchen? Poor litle guy; by all means, buy it and let ALL your family know they are NOT to tease or make fun of him...one, it's really none of their business, he's your son, and two, he can play in his own room and he can be alone without any criticism which could very well traumatize him. This goes for hubby too. If your husband forgets and teases him give him nothing to eat but cans of Chef BOY R Dee for a week. Tell the cousins to screw off...but keep them away from him while he is playing.
If he wants a kitchen, get him a kitchen. There are lots of ones out there that are not 'girly'. My son loves to play with my daughter's kitchen, and he's 5. Who cares what anyone else thinks?
Go and get one. The toy is not for girls only. He wants it because maybe he sees you cooking a lot of times and would like to do it himself. Children imitates a lot of things from what the adults do.
WHO SAID A KITCHEN IF FOR A GIRL THER IS MORE GUY CHEF'S THEN GIRL CHEF'S TELL THEM HE IS 4 THEY ARE MADE FOR CHILDREN GIRL OR BOY SAME AS DOLLS PEOPLE NEED TO MIND THERE OWN BUSINESS ANYMORE HE IS YOUR SON YOU SHOULD BUY IT DONT BREAK HIS HEART ON WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ITS YOUR SON THAT MATTERS, ASK YOUR HUSBAND IF ITS BECAUSE OF HIS PARENTS TELL HIM THAT ITS NOT THERE PLACE TO TELL YOU WHAT THEY THINK OF IT
Buy him the kitchen. Who says boys/men can't cook? It is so good for boys to learn skills also. If he wants a baby doll, let him have that. He can learn how to be a good daddy. I'll bet if a little girl wanted a truck, none of your relatives would have a problem with that. Cooking doesn't make a boy feminine or gay. Observe kids in any preschool or day care setting, both boys and girls play in the kitchen, play dress-up, play with trucks/cars, etc. These are really non-gender toys.
what is wrong with a boy playing with a kitchen. i say get it for him, just because they live in the dark ages where no man should learn or help out with the house work, doesn't mean you re son should. they are fun and it teaches children. go for it girl.
defiantly get it if that's what he wants...i think personally that the view your family have is very old fashioned. i think by your son having kitchens and what are referred as "girls toys" he will not have the same negative attitude when older. i mean stop at fairy dresses but hey if that's what he wants ha ha. Anyway who says that coOKing is ladies job......My husband tries thinking like yours. he isn't getting dinner cooked for him at mo for one of his comments ha ha. but its ok for me to struggle putting shelves up!! My Nephew has a kitchen if that makes you feel better. When you see your boy playing with it you will be glad you did get it for him......